There are ways to communicate and there are power ways.
One of the most important steps to powerful communication is also one of the most neglected.
I just finished my first book – Heart To Heart: 10 Steps To Communicating Mindfully And Connecting Deeply.
So what exactly is powerful communication? No, it’s not just speaking or talking at people. Powerful communication happens when people are actually connecting.
And there is a profound thing that happens when we are connecting deeply with others. This is what we all long for, but it seems to elude so many of us. Most people want to communicate powerfully with those around them, but they just don’t seem to be able to do it.
It’s actually not that hard and requires surrender. Surrendering to the other. It begins selflessly and by this I mean allowing others to speak. Allowing the communication to come to you. Being receptive.
This in turn means listening. So while it the least exercised form of communication it truly is the game changer and the most powerful means of communicating.
Listening the #1 Step to Communication.
The below excerpt is from my book – Heart To Heart: 10 Steps To Communicating Mindfully And Connecting Deeply
We need to listen so we can better understand what is being communicated to us. How can we possibly respond fully, if we haven’t fully heard the other person? How do we meet the other where they are without knowing their story, their feelings, their heart?
Listening is a form of relationship building, connection building and even community building. Famed therapist M. Scott Peck said this about building community: “They listen and understand, respect each other’s gifts, accept each other’s limitations, celebrate their differences, bind each other’s wounds, and commit to a struggle together rather than against each other.”
And for more on mindful communication watch my short video on how to communicate mindfully below.