What does it actually mean when we hear people say, “Mean what you say and say what you mean?”

I think far too often in life there’s a fine line in the sand. Our communication is not always clear. And we don’t always say what we mean. Let’s start there.

Say What You Mean

So with misconstrued language and verbiage we don’t always come directly at it. We don’t always say what it is we mean to say. We many times say something in an indirect way so we aren’t actually getting to the root of what we are trying to say. We aren’t being clear and precise. We are saying one thing, but implying another. We are feeling one way, but conveying a different feeling with our words and how we articulate that out to the world.

Mean What You Say

On the flip side is the notion of – Meaning what we say. What does that actually mean?

That means far too often we say things that we don’t really mean. We use words loosely. This can be applied in many different contexts. We might say one thing, but we don’t actually believe that. For example – in the heat of a moment we could tell someone we don’t love them anymore. Or we couldn’t threaten a partner with breakup or divorce. That’s a heated moment, but when we are calm – do we actually want to divorce this person? Do we actually want to break up? Do we really not love this person anymore? None of those things are truly accurate so those are some extreme examples of meaning what you say.

How To Understand Better Say What You Mean And Mean What You Say

Essentially what this means – is use your words wisely. They carry weight. Don’t just say things to say them. Say things to make a point and be clear and concise. Say things that you want to land to convey your feelings and express your emotions. Say things so there is a resolution or you get somewhere with the words. Be sincere in what it is you are saying and the messages you are putting out there. Don’t lie and don’t mislead people. Other examples would be tell someone you love them if you really don’t. Or to tell someone you are good going along with what they have planned when you really are not.

We have to speak up and understand the power of words and communication. We have to learn how they hold people’s attention and that people take our words to heart. They take them at face value. So the last thing we want to do is mislead someone in to thinking one thing when really we are feeling another way.

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