I’m working on a handful of things as usual. Never enough time in the day, but I remain hopeful it will all over a period of time indeed get done. I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting lately.
Almost March? What? What happened to January and the most of February? So crazy, the lightening speed at which time is traveling.
They would tell me when I was younger time flies, but I really didn’t get it. And now with the aging process and having put a few decades down I’m starting to get it.
Perspective is one thing, but experience is a whole ‘nother thing.
So as a writer and trainer I have a pretty jam pack schedule, but Sundays are all mine. What does all mine entail? For me it entails lounging heavy – ok so it’s probably not the kind of lounging you’d imagine. When I say lounging I’ve got my cup of coffee or iced coffee.
Ok this is not really my cup, but I kind of need to go find one just like this. I’ve drank from cups like this and it always seems like some delightful all too short lived experience that leaves my lips partially chapped, my throat cold with glee and my heart warm with cheer.
So Sundays are spent reading, writing, doing some Reiki, which is generally a daily thing and of course a little amped up meditation. Not to leave out my walk or run. A little sweat is par for the course.
And while it may seem far fetched I embody what I preach. I really do live like this and this is what I do.
So heads up on what I’m working on – My next book – It’s a Memoir of Sorts – let’s just say – Hint Hint.
Yes. I do write long hand from time to time. I have stacks and stacks of journals – handwritten notepads, notes, my old reporter notebooks and journals all over the place. Stacks that need to get transported – moved over to the digital age so I can turn those thoughts, woes and worries, profundities at times and many times messages from the divine into something substantive.
Yes. I am called to write and share. Nothing more awesome than provoking thought and evoking emotion.
My planner is jam packed yes. Even on the weekends.
It seems that time is a finite commodity and I’m running short on it. There just is not enough time in the day to get it all done.
What can I say.
Here’s what a regular monday looks like for me and you can assume it’s like this pretty much every other day.
Ok – I know this image is here is more a little place holder or a thought provoker. My schedule starts with coffee and some light reading on to a short meditation. Got to get my berries in – blueberries, coffee, chocolate, sometimes a banana and often a little chocolate sea salt brownie bite from Trader Joe’s or two. Oh the oddities of life.
I wasn’t expecting such goodness when I picked up my first box a few weeks ago that would soon become an addiction.
So as a student of life – I’ve spent a lot of time studying and investigating high achievers. I have a lot on my plate always and a lot I’m needing to get done.
I’ve got an awesome podcast episode – yep #5 on the table – just a few chops here and there a little light editing and it will be up in no time. That’s on today’s agenda. A few calls with clients who are journeying with me.
Looking for power ways to get through the hard stuff? Well I’ve had my share of hard stuff and I can definitely help you through it. That’s kind of what I do.
And then here goes – And yes this is really the daily schedule
Coffee – breakfast
20 Minutes of Reading – sometimes writing
20 Minutes of Meditation
Checking emails – answering emails
Calls – Client calls
Interviews or shooting a story
Writing – 1-2 hours
While it may seem slightly daunting I do plug all of these things in to my day.
The pandemic makes it hard to get out and about. We’re stuck here and for me it’s a pretty awesome place to be stuck. I’m encased by redwoods hundreds of feet tall. They offer piece and serenity although Friday night a little windstorm blew in for about 45 minutes in the middle of night.
I didn’t know what to make of it. I wasn’t sure how long it would last. I could here the crackling of old branches being unhinged after a hundred plus years of holding on.
I lay there fascinated by all the glory of nature. How these trees that surround my abode had made it through so much natural turbulence.
The threat of fire here is a looming one.
And irrespective of this potential notion that this part of the Oakland Hills could singe with fury especially if the winds blow in the way they did the other night I’m ok.
The trees support me. They support the journey I’m on. And I’m blessed beyond measure to call this home. I sit atop the edge of a mountainside that looks out west off to the Pacific with the East calling me on the other side.
I’ve always longed for the East. It’s in my blood. I long to go back to India for an extended period of time. To the cascading hills and mountains of the Dharma sala and to perhaps pay the Dalai Lama a visit. I’m after a hug really. What a treasure it would be to get a good belly laugh in with His Holiness.
Here’s one that always cheers me up.
Really I’m not called to Europe although I’ve sprawled about a little there. I’m called to ancient holy sites of Cambodia. Ankgor Wat calls me to come.
It’s as if my Gurus are inviting me with a very personal invitation.
The pandemic seems to be forging on. Vaccines are rolling out in slow order although there are promises of 600 million to be distributed by June. I like the sound of that. According to my math we’d be just about 100 million short here in the states at two per person.
So there is promise on the horizon. It lay idly by as we continue doing what we do.
Who me? Organized? Well yes. Some aspects of my life, like work are much more organized than the other aspects, but it seems like it’s all work no play these days. Being a content creator during a pandemic is like an incredible blessing that forces me to create. No more happy hour wine or out to the movies. Dinners out at all the incredible restaurants here in the bay, over. Sad. Especially for a foodie like me, but again a blessing in the strangest ways.
As far as work goes – there is clear direction. I have a list of tasks that I’m always working on.
And a daily routine certainly helps. Staying organized in life is the same as keeping an organized work space. You just have to keep that way. So keep with it essentially. Meaning if you choose to clean it up then you have to keep it clean. So this is the beauty of that routine or having one. It teaches you how to stick to things. Stick it out for the long haul or see it all the way through.
This is one a lot of people struggle with. Seeing things all the way through. How many tasks have you left half way through?
This is the most opportune time to get back to that thing you started, that hobby. Those empty journals, those pages just yearning for something, anything.
Ok so we’ve talked about getting together a game plan and that is great and dandy. I love the game plan cause that is our first step to getting together an actual schedule, i.e. routine!
So what is this exactly and why is it so important?
A routine – according to – Webster is – 1 : of a commonplace or repetitious character : ordinary routine problems. 2 : of, relating to, or being in accordance with established procedure routine business.
Yes – precisely. Of a commonplace or repetitious character do you say?
Yes. Yes! And YES!!! I do!
This is the bread and butter behind it all right here. It’s get in to the rhythm. Flow state. It’s establishing a routine, not just a game plan, but beginning to implement those daily steps that formulate you, shape you, make you and every now and then break you.
Breaking’s good. This is when we flex. Get our real flex on. Muscle up. Tough it out.
So when I say every so often break you – I mean – every now and then we are so in the dug out that it just seems like we can’t keep going, but it’s the routine that allows us to crack the code. Get beneath our grit and grime and see what we are really made of.
How committed are we? We all talk about stuff. We all dream and day dream and talk about fluffy marshmallowy dreams that might turn into something some day, but come on guys. We all know that talk is cheap. So cheap. It’s fruitless really. Talk is just that, talk. There’s no action behind talk. It’s a four letter word that’s all about chopping it up.
And yes talk can be good. It can be motivating. It’s not all bad. And alot of great ideas start with a lot of talk.
However that talk then must be met with action.
So here’s why a routine is so important – it’s those baby steps.
It’s not the whole enchilada, but it’s the fixings, it’s the ingredients, it’s the little nuggets that make it a whole enchilada eventually.
So the routine is like the – the talk about – “what’s for dinner?”
And then that’s followed up with possibly a trip to the grocery store – where we take that next step and get the ingredients. We’ve figured out what we’re having – That’s the GAME PLAN – check out this post if you haven’t already seen it.
So that’s the game plan and the next step is getting together those ingredients.
So in the world of routines – that entails your day.
WHAT IS YOUR DAY MADE OF?
Let’s break it down.
Is it a free for all? Do you just wing it? Do you take it as it comes?
Do you have moments and minutes plugged in that are regular where you do that little extra or you set time aside to take those baby steps towards that goal?
Ok – let’s break it down a little more. Are you setting aside time each and every single day to – lose weight? Work on that dream goal, side hustle business idea, book?
Is that a daily thing?
Or is it a when you feel like it thing and I’d rather just lay low thing?
What kind of dream is it? How bad do you want it?
The routine is important for so many reasons. Every successful person in the world has a routine. They generally go to bed at the same time.
They wake up – usually without an alarm. Your body is your alarm clock. It knows exactly when to wake up.
They start their day exactly the same way – with a 10 minutes of quiet time. They then get their coffee or tea going. They read for 20 minutes.
They do some push ups or crunches. Or they start their morning with a hardcore workout.
What is that you do every single day to see results over time?
There’s got to be something.
The mind and body love a routine. They love knowing how it’ll go.
And those people who are crushing it – own their days. If we don’t have an outline, a routine, then our day owns us. That’s just how it goes.
There’s no rigid timeline or outline in place for our day so we just kind of take it as it comes. And this my friends is not the power way of manifesting.
Manifesting entails very clear focus, purpose, intent, an actual plan all laid out.
Daily Routine Tips And Tricks
Make your bed – this is such a powerful routine to get into the habit of. It’s the first critical exercise of the day that allows you to have achieved something right when you first get up. It puts you in the right frame of mind to get things going first thing. It’s a great way to get your day started. It takes a minute, but adds so much productivity to your day because you set the stage for the rest of your day with this initial powerful routine. Make it habit.
Lemon Water – As a cleansing routine and means to starting and staying healthy start your morning a with some lemon water. Check out the benefits here.
Have your coffee or tea all dialed in the night before. So if that means prepping in advance. Setting the timer then do it. You’ll be one step ahead of the rest.
10 minutes of quietude – Meditate – How about you wait about 15 minutes before looking at your phone and getting yourself all techied out and just chill out. 10 minutes of meditation in the morning can add hours of productivity to your day. The benefits are enormous. You’ll be calmer, more reflective, your brain will be more dynamic from that much needed rest – 10 minutes will do it. The longer the better, but even 10 minutes is huge. You’ll be less reactive. And you will be so much sharper throughout the day. You’ll be more clear headed, not to mention level headed, less guarded, more at ease and did I say less reactive? Yes all of that. It’s so powerful and all of the most successful people are jumping in on it. Meditation is the real deal folks. I grew up on this stuff and it’s the most powerful tool in your tool belt/arsenal. Use it and stick to it. Make it a part of your morning ritual. It’s a game changer.
Read – if you can plug in 5 minutes over a bowl of cereal this sets the stage for your day, productivity, advancement, fine tuning your knowledge and a great exercise for the mind.
Check List – have a daily schedule laid out – bonus – I do mine the night before – around 7pm. Don’t do it too late cause then you’ll be up all night thinking about everything you have to do in the morning. And do I need to expand on the power of positivity and exuberance we feel when we start checking things off. It’s the greatest affirmation of accomplishment. Even those little things are so awesome to check off. We feel accomplished.
And of course it’s up to you – what your routine is going to look like – but mine looks a lot like the one we just mapped out for you above. Plug in your own stuff, but the key is to do it daily, make it a habit, a ritual, stick with it. Yes even on the weekends! It’s what we like as human beings. We like and thrive on routine!
What’s your routine look like? Let me know. I’d love to hear!
2020 is over. Thank God, but here’s my take on it. It wasn’t all bad and actually for us soul seekers and those always wanting to go deeper with ourselves, it was a blessing in disguise.
It was good. Real good for slowing us down. We had to slow our roll immensely. We scaled back on the superficial things. We paused the consumerism. Well some of us did. I’m not big on Amazon. No judgement. Just saying.
Amazon is the titan and you can surely get lost in the sea of selections on that site. Not only that, but the time that we give to these things. This is one we can never get back.
TIME IS PRECIOUS – USE IT WISELY
Time is our friend when we see it’s value and use it in a way that enhances us, our lives and those around us. When we wake up to each and every moment and see the weight of its power, time is truly our friend.
However when we spend a lot of time on things that don’t necessarily serve us in the end, worry, living in the past, regrets, sitting in extended bouts of sorrow, time is a great loss.
PUT IN THE WORK
Here’s the deal though – I have all that I could possibly need in life. I don’t need any more stuff. I’m after growth, soul growth, wisdom, books, scaling up my knowledge and my writing.
I want to do better with myself for myself and all of those around me.
We had our hopes dashed as the pandemic seared it’s way into our world. Cut off from socializing, zooming with friends and scaling back in so many ways.
I think it’s been good. We’ve been forced out of our comfort zones into more what I would call is loving territory.
And while some have had a rough go of it by being forced to stay home for extended periods of time others have undergone exceptional transformation. We’re talking more. We’re I’m hoping listening more and better. Yes this is a skill that requires practice.
THE POWER OF SLOWING DOWN
We are just slowing down. We have more time to reflect. We are getting back to some of those old hobbies or things we started and never finished. Oh how rewarding it is.
We have more time with loved ones. We are reading more. Thank you God! I’ve loved this part of it more than anything.
And now let me ask you – what are you going to do with all of this newfound wisdom, strength, resilience, knowledge?
2021 IS GOING TO BE SO GOOD
2021 is going to be far better not because 2020 sucked. Cause in my opinion it really didn’t. It was actually a pivotal year for momentous growth. Yes the pandemic sucked and people dying from a horrific virus sucks. And we’re not out of the woods, far from it. We are on the surge right now. Worst than ever, but we’ve learned, most of us have at least.
We are smarter, braver, wiser. We are more hopeful now cause we’ve felt the enormity of loss. We bring fervor and zest back to our goals and desires. We are more adamant and determined to get there. We’ve had a year of contemplative sitting. And no we have not been idle.
We’re 3 days out now. And for me I’m ready. Already ready and getting ready, real ready for a monumental year.
I’ve got big plans folks. You can expect my next book or two. Be on the look out for more video content from me. I’ll be doing a lot of features here from Oakland. I want to share stories that inspire me and I hope will inspire you too. It’s those stories about awesome people up to awesome things that always move me and touch me in some way that shoot straight to my heart. That’s what I’ll be doing.
And here are some thoughts on how to get going on your big plans for 2021.
AFFIRM IT OUT LOUD
Yep, that’s right. Claim your prize. Outloud. Say it. Affirm it. Feel it and sense the power and weight of your words. Sense and feel the weight of those feelings that bubble inside in shear excitement of this goal.
MAKE IT BOLD
Step outside of your comfort zone. Stretch yourself. Go for a bigger goal. Make it worthy of you. There is no goal too big or small that you cannot manifest.
Make sure you are looking for constant inspiration. Again start your day – 5-10 minutes with something inspirational, motivational. You can just listen while you’re getting ready or while you’re eating breakfast. The way you start your day is how your day will turn out.
DO THE SOUL WORK
Make sure to make time for you. Sit in silence. Get into nature. Realign yourself daily. Do those things that feed and nurture your soul. Make sure you take 5-10 minutes everyday. It is my sincere hope you will make a real practice out of it. Make it a habit. Come up with a routine that you stick to at least Monday through Friday. Routines make it more habit forming. So if you’re going to sit in silence for 5-10 minutes do it in the morning, same time every day. We are creatures of habit and when we begin making it routine and sticking to those time slots we are more biologically in tune and it’s easier to make a habit of it.
2021 GAME PLAN
Lay out the foundation, the roadmap. Map out precisely those baby steps that you plan to take to move yourself powerfully in the direction of realizing this ambition. I have my plans all laid out for the entire year. My projections for where I plan on being are broken down into bite size pieces month to month.
THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO COMMUNICATE WITH ANYONE IN YOUR WORLD
What is the most powerful way to communicate with anyone in your world?
There are ways to communicate and there are ways to take your communication game to the next level.
Today I’m talking about mindful communication. This is the most powerful way to show up for those conversations and interactions. There is no more powerful way to elevate the dialogue and go deeper with loved ones.
Mindful Communication – The Most Powerful Way To Communicate
During Mindful communication which is the highest form of communication. You do it with the intent of being completely present for that encounter. You are all in. You are there not with any agenda or hopes of an outcome in mind. You are simply there just to be there.
And when we begin letting go of attachments to an outcome or a way of being, a philosophy the gateway to potential, ours and theirs becomes boundless.
If two people show up totally and completely aware of the moment, one another, the connectivity, the human experience they show up in the most beautiful ways.
This is the most powerful way to communicate with anyone in your world.
If you can learn to do this with that person you struggle with the most, life transforms. We transcend those hang ups and it’s magical.
It’s possible. Never let anyone tell you, people don’t change. People do change. They can and they do. So if you believe it’s possible or if you have hope for change with someone in your world it is very likely possible. You just have to learn to show up differently them. And that opens a gateway and allows them to show up differently for you.
Learn this power way and change the game.
I’m always so blown away by people not wanting to show up in this way or not realizing their own power and ability to. A lot of people don’t realize that it’s not hard and it is the game changer. This is the way to show up and yes you can do it. It’s pretty effortless. Just show up and be there with total presence.
Ultimately this is what we all want. We all want to connect and have deep meaningful interactions with those around and this the most powerful way to do that.
As a mindfulness trainer these are some of the questions I get asked more than anything else.
How do you do things in a new way?
How do I stay inspired?
How do I get disciplined and stay disciplined?
How do I manifest what I want in my life?
The first thing you have to understand about behavior is, it’s not just the behavior, but your attitude towards it.
In order to get a new outcome you have to do things in a different way. You have to change your understanding of it. What does that mean? That means it starts with mindset. Your way of seeing things and perceiving the means to the outcome has everything to do with the actual outcome.
See it in a whole new way. Change your perception of what it is you want and how exactly you have to attain it.
So see it in a way that is more positive, makes it absolutely possible. Focus on the steps you need to take to get there. Focus on the actionable steps – digestible baby steps. Don’t see it as an overwhelming set of steps that will take years even if it will. That is not the mindset to get you there.
The power way is tap into the outcome from an energetic level. “Feel your way through it and to it.”
So that means feel the end result. Get so excited about it that you can imagine yourself there at the very end, living that ultimate goal and dream. Live into the energetic frequency of having it. Make it come so alive in your mind that all you focus on is that end goal, the result, the positivity of having it, living it, being it. And as a result you see no other option for your life. The only option is to make it or get there, attain it. That’s it. The decision has been concretely made and solidified in your subconscious and then informs your conscious mind daily. And you begin taking the steps to realize that end goal.
You are no longer overwhelmed by what seems far-reaching, but rather committed to the attainment and are will do whatever it takes to get there. Period.
It’s with having this mindset that you’re able to step into a space of action and action only. You have to get yourself to a place where you commit and decide so decisively that all you focus on is the end goal and everything else really doesn’t matter. Essentially you are willing to do whatever it takes to get there. You become so focused and so driven on getting there that you commit wholeheartedly.
That’s what you have to do. When we begin to elevate our awareness and expand our perception this inevitably broadens our level of understanding.
With this new way of understanding you go in clear. You start with a whole new approach.
So to reiterate what I’m saying is you have to understand what is powerful and what is not.
What attitude helps move the needle of progress and what doesn’t? Ask yourself.
So if we keep doing the same thing we’ll keep getting the same result.
Instead what you need to do is this –
First decide what outcome you want
Second – come up with an actionable plan
Third – follow through
Most successful people find the drive to accomplish that goal, that greatest dream or ambition by deciding they want something so bad that nothing will get in the way.
Ways to get there you might find helpful –
Vision board – Yes this works. It’s all energy folks so when you stare at the dream car every day or that dream house, dream job, the more you tap into that frequency the more it comes to life in your heart and soul.
Sense and Feel – Think about that desire every single day. And here’s the deal don’t just think about it, but sense and feel it. Begin to sense and feel so strongly that your subconscious mind begins to convince you as if it’s already real. So then what happens is the body follows.
Journal – write about it to elevate your feelings about it. The more you spend time on it and focus on it the more the thoughts of this ideal reality begin to take shape and come to life.
Surround yourself with these things – You’ve heard the famous phrase – “Birds of a feather flock together.” That means successful people hang out with successful people, musicians surround themselves with music and instruments. Writers spend their time reading and writing to tap into that frequency and bring it to life.
Meditation – Sit in quietude with what it is you want. No meditation is not about turning your thoughts off. It’s about being in solitude and allowing peace and tranquility to take you. And it is also possible to meditate on something, that goal, dream or desire. So you can sit in silence and meditate on what it is you want and bring that more and more to life in your thoughts and heart and soul. It’s energy.
Talk About It – Energy – yep – again – reiterating here that it truly is all energy. So talking about what you want and dreaming about it, day dreaming about it, sharing it with that person who’s close to you or all of those you are close to helps bring it more to the fore of your consciousness and gives it life.
This is one of those things so many of us struggle with. We do things and it’s only human nature to anticipate a result, an outcome.
Otherwise we innately feel our efforts are fruitless. However I’m here to tell you that is not the case whatsoever.
Your efforts, yours and mine are never fruitless when done with heart and soul. And furthermore when done from the heart it is universal law that we are matching whatever vibration we put out there.
So if you want to start a blog then start it. Honor and recognize that intuitive part of yourself. That’s your heart talking to you! So listen!
If you want to do something and feel some sense of deep desire than you should absolutely follow that through.
Let’s dive deeper with this notion – so here’s what you need to understand – if you want to lose weight it’s not going to happen with the first try right? It takes time, commitment, effort.
If we want to start meditating it feels almost impossible in the beginning. It can be so difficult that people try it once or twice or for a few days and give up altogether.
Well if it was all supposed to be easy we wouldn’t have gotten very far in life at all.
We know this already so why second guess it. Life is not easy. It’s not supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to push you and nudge you and force you to grow and evolve.
Let go of this idea of needing instantaneous results. Get into flow state and start that blog right now, today, your two clicks away.
That’s how you get started. Just do it!
Let me break down why you should:
Because you want to – now come on! Is this not reason enough. You don’t need to talk yourself into it. Just go with what you feel.
Listen to that inner voice – We spend half our lives second guessing ourselves or ignoring our own inner voice. Hey! Let me let you in on something you already know, but you have a way of ignoring. That’s your intuition – saying “Yes! Go For it! Do it!”
You are growing – You get to grow with this new found confidence to jump in and get it going. This is such a huge bonus. You get better. You home in on that skill and that attribute so absolutely nothing is lost.
It’s practice and experience – And to drive this home a little – you are gaining invaluable experience. You are putting in the work. And her’e something I’ve always believed. A lot of times in life it seems we are just putting in work with no fruit, but here’s the thing I promise you all that hard work inevitably pays off. The fruits of your labor will bear fruit. It’s cosmic law. There’s an invisible time clock that gets punched in every single time and someone – God, A Higher Power, Source, The Universe – whatever you believe in is keeping score. So trust me – your work will pay off. Stick with it.
You lose nothing – only gain – Why the heck not? What is there to lose? Now as you know so much of my work is about self inquiry and self reflection so like I do and yes I’m going there again – ponder this – ask yourself – “Well, why the heck not? What do I have to lose? Why do I keep making up all these excuses? What am I so afraid of?” Ask yourself. Ponder it. Sit with these questions – and you’ll realize you cannot come up with a single good reason not to – so that kind of tells me – “You Should!”
So again let me reiterate – once you let go of this idea of expectation – you can just do it. There is no attachment of expectation and you can simply make it happen and follow your dreams and desires. People who know they are going to start a blog just do it. It’s that simple. They make a decision and they choose. They don’t have any expectations of an outcome. They simply choose it. Once the decision is made it’s done. There is no more second guessing.
So go ahead. Take a moment. Ponder the questions I asked of you. Consider it all. You have a day or two, but then you get on it and don’t waste another single day thinking – “I could’ve, should’ve, would’ve.”
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I know you ladies have stepped up your game with family and loved ones during this difficult time.
You are always taking it all on because you are a lover and giver and you just don’t always know how to pause and take a moment for you.
Well this is my pep talk for you reminding you – to take a moment to pause and love yourself!
My whole purpose here is to just offer a little love and guidance along the way on this bumpy little thing called life.
It’s hard. I get it more than anyone. As you know I’ve been through a series of traumatic things in life. It’s been a real struggle, but what the struggle has taught me is that I’m capable. I am worthy. I am brave. I am strong. I will survive.