So I talk about this all the time if you’ve been following me for a moment. We do so much for everyone else we seem to have a knack at neglecting ourselves.
Self Love – How Much Time Are You Making For It?
We are busy with work and wanting to give to others. We are busy showing up for loved ones. There is always someone who needs you or something that needs to be done. That’ll never change – so how do we find time for ourselves? How do we find time to step away from the monotony and love ourselves?
I’ve got exactly the answer and I’ll break it down for you with sincere hope that you will take my guidance and try it at least once. I’m here to use my hardships to help you with yours. There’s no way all this awful stuff just happen to me for nothing. It can’t just be that life is just so rough and that’s it. No there’s more to the hard stuff when we dig deeper. And I want you to start leaning into the pain a little more for your own soul growth.
Self Love For Singles
Now I have the good fortune of being single – yes I feel blessed for this. I feel chosen. I feel God has given me ample blessings by teaching me how to be whole alone and how to go inward to gain better understanding of myself and life and all of the struggles.
Sure I’ve loved, but I’ve been broken in the process and returning to wholeness is a long journey, sometimes far longer than we can ever imagine.
I have overcome so much trauma that I’ve had to lean into God and lean into love probably far more than the average person.
I’ve found myself asking why on so many occasions in life that I had to go digging deeper within myself for those answers. Because as we know and if you don’t you know I’ve said it before – the answers are inside. They are inside of us.
So while the world may feed us all of these sugar coated ideas and want to lump us in a box with conventional notions of how life should go – it never really goes that way. And for us singles self love is even more important. You need to love yourself and you can love yourself – Yes and be totally whole with our without a man or woman by your side. I am living proof.
I’m confident. I’m happy. I’m loved. And I’m whole.
It can be done. And while it’s difficult for most it takes a lot of work – self work – soul work to get to this point of deeper understanding and greater awareness where you realize the conventional dogma of needing a husband or wife and white picket fence and kids and the whole 9 might be great for some, but is IS NOT necessary to live a happy fulfilled life. Know this.
Self Love For Soul Growth
The self-journeying all the pain has afforded me has come at an exuberant price and that price is so astronomical and actually priceless that I feel blessed beyond measure for it all. I would’ve never gone so deep with my own soul journey had it not been for all the trauma. And I would’ve never had come to discover self love in the way I have and this deeper understanding of life if it were not for all this pain and suffering.
Had I not had so many hardships in life I would’ve just kind of sailed through it and never truly been challenged to go deeper with myself. I would’ve just been ok and lived on the periphery like so many of us do.
However all of those struggles were a blessing. And while we’re going through it feels hard as hell we manage some how. We somehow in those awfully painful times find our resolve to continue. Our strength to keep pushing and we make out on the other end a little harder a little more fragile and little more delicate to the touch, but with a little prowess we can learn from those hardships and allow them to teach us and allow them to let us grow into majestic butterflies who can transform and fly.
3 Tips For Self Love
- You Time – of course it’s got to start with this. If you can’t get away from everyone even if for just 5-10 minutes then we’ve got a big problem. I want you to ask yourself how you can make this happen in your life. If you’ve got kids – if you’ve got pets – if you’ve got parents – whatever it is that need your undivided attention – how can you set that aside for 5-10 minutes a day to do you? This is serious. We have to make a concerted effort, no excuses for making this happen. It does not matter what is going on – YOU CAN figure this out – 5-10 minutes of quite you time. Ok I’m not bragging whatsoever – but this is a so huge for me and where my good fortune kicks in. I have ample time to myself – where I get to read, write, meditate, do Reiki, listen to music, just be, whatever and it has been so incredibly awesome for my soul. I count my blessings for this every single day and I want you to figure out how you too – can take a few minutes for yourself – do nothing and just close your eyes and breathe. Start with 5 minutes if that’s all you can manage to muster up, but just START!
- Nature – Ok so this one is kind of cool – cause it can be done with others and will feed you and nurture just the same – ok, that was a little fib, might be a little better alone, but hey I guess I’m just spoiled. The point of me exaggerating my love for alone time is to help especially those of you who are alone to learn to treasure it, honor it, feel the blessings. And for those of you who have a significant other – stepping away from that person for a little while and taking some me time can do wonders not only for your soul, but your relationship as well. If you can – someway some how find some nature near you and if you can’t get into the redwoods, get into the grass, get under a tree, get under the sky and sink your soul into it for – 5-10 minutes a day. (Always puzzled at how many excuses we make for coming up with 5 minutes.) Come one guys – you can find 5 minutes in your day – alleviate some of the social media or random chit chatter for 5 whole minutes of self love. You’ll be so glad you did.
- Be heard – if you’ve got something on your mind – then let it out. Don’t always be the listener. You don’t always need to be the one giving advice. Get your own stuff out. Call a friend, ask a your mom, ask your dad, ask you sibling, your significant other – say this – “I’d love to share about what’s going on in my life right now. Would you be open to listening for 5 minutes?” You’ve probably never said this or asked anyone in your world to just be open to listening to you. Maybe you have, but very likely you haven’t. Getting some things out. Getting affirmation from a loved one for all the love you put in can be so powerfully fulfilling and meaningful to you and your relationship. Ask to be loved back. Ask to be honored.
If you need help or want to go deeper with yourself – then start with my LITE (Look Inside To Enlightenment) Guide. It’s the first step to learning to be with yourself in a deeper way and learning the magically powerful process of self-inquiry. Get it here.