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Self Love Exercises To Start Practicing Right Now
If you’ve been with me for a minute, you already know I talk about this constantly:
we pour into everyone else so easily, yet neglect ourselves almost by default.
This is why self-love isn’t a luxury — it’s survival. It’s grounding. It’s how we come back to ourselves when life pulls us in too many directions.
Today, I want to walk you through three self-love exercises you can begin practicing right now. Small shifts. Deep returns.
But first, let’s ground ourselves in what self-love actually is.
What Is Self Love?
Self-love isn’t indulgent. It’s not selfish. It’s not bubble baths and candles (though those do help).
Self-love is the ongoing commitment to take care of your mind, body, spirit, and emotional world with intention and respect.
When we truly love ourselves:
- We make decisions that support our well-being — food, rest, boundaries, movement.
- We stop defining ourselves by the worst things we’ve been through.
- We become kinder internally, which softens the harshness of self-criticism.
- We give and receive love with more ease because our worth isn’t hinging on someone else.
Self-love is the foundation of emotional resilience and the doorway to deeper relationships — especially the one we have with ourselves.
Learning To Practice Self Love
Self-love is a skill. One you build slowly, gently, intentionally.
Start by noticing your inner dialogue.
What tone do you use when you speak to yourself? Would you talk to someone you love that way?
If the answer is no, it’s time to shift.
Also — treat yourself. Daily. Not extravagantly. Just intentionally. Pick something small that shows you that you matter.
And surround yourself with people who reflect the truth:
You deserve love, support, and a safe place to be fully yourself.
This is how we strengthen the muscles of self-respect, confidence, and emotional freedom.
Self Love – How Much Time Are You Making For It?
Life stays busy. Always has, always will. The truth is, there will always be someone who needs you, something that needs to be done, and a never-ending list of demands.
So the actual question is:
Where do you exist in your own life?
If you don’t carve out space for yourself — even five minutes — no one will hand it to you.
I’ve walked through enough of my own storms and heartbreaks to know this:
your soul is asking for your presence.
Your inner world is asking for gentleness. Not when things calm down. Now.
And trust me — nothing I’ve lived through happened “for nothing.” Every hardship launched me into a deeper journey with myself.
My hope is that you’ll let your own pain be a doorway inward, not a dead end.
Self Love Exercises For Singles
I say this all the time: I genuinely feel blessed to be single.
Not because life was easy — but because being alone taught me how to become whole. How to go inward. How to sit with myself without running.
Yes, I’ve loved. Yes, I’ve been broken. Yes, healing took far longer than I ever imagined.
But I learned this — and I hope it reaches you:
You can be whole without anyone else completing you.
You can be fulfilled, joyful, grounded, and deeply loved — alone.
The world pushes us into boxes — marriage, kids, the white picket fence — but these are not the only paths to meaning.
Your worth isn’t dependent on relationship status.
Your wholeness isn’t conditional.
I am living proof.
Check out this post I wrote for more insights – (Greatest Advice I Was Ever Given.)
Remember –
I’m confident. I’m happy. I’m loved. And I’m whole.
Self Love Exercises For Soul Growth
My deepest growth came from pain — not because suffering is noble, but because it forced me inward.
If life had been easy, I wouldn’t have explored the depths of my own soul.
Every hardship sharpened me. Softened me. Broke me open in ways that eventually allowed me to rebuild with more awareness, compassion, and wisdom.
Self-love grows in those quiet places where you learn to sit with yourself — even when it hurts.
And when you let the hard moments teach you rather than define you, you become something new. Something transformed. Something freer.
Had I not had so many hardships in life
3 Tips For Self Love
Here are three simple practices that can shift everything — starting right now.
- You Time – of course it’s got to start with this. If you can’t get away from everyone even if for just 5-10 minutes then we’ve got a big problem. I want you to ask yourself how you can make this happen in your life. If you’ve got kids – if you’ve got pets – if you’ve got parents – whatever it is that need your undivided attention – how can you set that aside for 5-10 minutes a day to do you? This is serious. We have to make a concerted effort, no excuses for making this happen. It does not matter what is going on – YOU CAN figure this out – 5-10 minutes of quite you time. Ok I’m not bragging whatsoever – but this is a so huge for me and where my good fortune kicks in. I have ample time to myself – where I get to read, write, meditate, do Reiki, listen to music, just be, whatever and it has been so incredibly awesome for my soul. I count my blessings for this every single day and I want you to figure out how you too – can take a few minutes for yourself – do nothing and just close your eyes and breathe. Start with 5 minutes if that’s all you can manage to muster up, but just START!
- Nature – Ok so this one is kind of cool – cause it can be done with others and will feed you and nurture just the same – ok, that was a little fib, might be a little better alone, but hey I guess I’m just spoiled. The point of me exaggerating my love for alone time is to help especially those of you who are alone to learn to treasure it, honor it, feel the blessings. And for those of you who have a significant other – stepping away from that person for a little while and taking some me time can do wonders not only for your soul, but your relationship as well. If you can – someway some how find some nature near you and if you can’t get into the redwoods, get into the grass, get under a tree, get under the sky and sink your soul into it for – 5-10 minutes a day. (Always puzzled at how many excuses we make for coming up with 5 minutes.) Come one guys – you can find 5 minutes in your day – alleviate some of the social media or random chit chatter for 5 whole minutes of self love. You’ll be so glad you did.
- Be heard – if you’ve got something on your mind – then let it out. Don’t always be the listener. You don’t always need to be the one giving advice. Get your own stuff out. Call a friend, ask a your mom, ask your dad, ask you sibling, your significant other, your therapist – say this – “I’d love to share about what’s going on in my life right now. Would you be open to listening for 5 minutes?” You’ve probably never said this or asked anyone in your world to just be open to listening to you. Maybe you have, but very likely you haven’t. Getting some things out. Getting affirmation from a loved one for all the love you put in can be so powerfully fulfilling and meaningful to you and your relationship. Ask to be loved back. Ask to be honored.
Want To Go Deeper?
If you’re craving deeper self-inquiry, reflection, and emotional clarity, start with the
Ultimate Self-Inquisition Guide — it’s the tool that teaches you how to meet yourself with honesty and courage.
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