3 Ways To Build Your Confidence

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How many times in life have you felt unworthy? Sorry for yourself? Unsure of yourself? And just downright not empowered?

Life is always presenting us problems. We find ourselves in predicaments that keep us from thriving. We might be on top of the world today as confident as ever, but in the next moment we may be second guessing ourselves.

At times life may even jolt the confidence right out of us.

While we all want to sulk and feel sorry ourselves on occasion we have to learn to redirect our focus in those moments of helplessness and despair. We can be mad at ourselves for the things we haven’t achieved, not many of us have the insight to see the silver lining that is hidden between the dark clouds.

Having a big-picture view is the most important thing to boost your confidence. There are simple exercises for having greater confidence day in and day out.

Just changing your body language, your tone and your smile can boost confidence.

Here are 3 simple confidence-building exercises I’d like you to consider that can teach us very important lessons in life.

  1. Count your blessings

No, we are not getting philosophical here! What we are trying to tell you is that when things aren’t happening the way you want or plan on, don’t just get into a downward spiral of why me’s.

Yes, failures can be worrisome, but you need to train your mind to think positively and be grateful for what you have.  Exercise gratitude for what is there and lean into that. Don’t focus on what is lacking because that will also grow. Maybe you’re struggling cause your business is not generating enough money? Be grateful that you’re chasing your dreams.  And most importantly believe it will all pan out. Perhaps your parents are not thrilled about your career choice. Don’t focus on that. Be grateful that you have parents. 

See what I mean? When you start counting your blessings, it makes you feel grateful for what you have and removes the negativity in your mind. When we’re positive we evoke confidence just by emanating that frequency.

2. Work-life balance

Regardless of what you do or how far you’ve come in your career or business you need to have work-life balance. This is a key component to peace of mind and feeling confident. The stresses of life can leave us second guessing ourselves altogether. Make sure you are spending enough time with family and loved ones. And don’t forget the “me-time”. This is an absolute must. When your personal life is happy, it reflects on your professional life as well.

On the contrary, when you keep sulking, you tend to fail at both. Relationships can be harder when we are unable to maintain work life balance. We need a healthy amount of – emotional well-being, pshycial well-being, spiritual well-being. All of these have to be a part of the bigger equation.

If you can’t maintain this then it will inevitably impact your self-belief and confidence to a large extent. This is why it is essential to switch off from work and stress when it’s time to unwind and relax. I believe wholeheartedly in the play hard work hard motto.

3. Change the body language

Ok this one may seem a little off kilter here, but I assure you there’s more to it than meets the eye. You can exude self-confidence by following these tips.

Maintain eye contact even when you are talking to people. This tells them that you are sure about yourself. When you are meeting new people, extend your hand warmly and have a genuine smile on your face. Don’t be afraid of strangers. You’re extraverted exterior also exudes confidence. And remember listen. You all know I’m big on this one. It’s powerful so do it! Talking too much or unendingly can actually come off as nervous or unsure of yourself, insecure. And if it’s with a group try out these power poses – lean forward while placing your hands on the table, address them with arms at your hips, sitting with your hands behind your head in a chair, etc. These are just a few power poses that you have to be pretty confident to try.

Published by suesblues

Sue Dhillon is an Indian American writer, journalist, and trainer.

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