Being the bigger person is no small feat. In conversation today I found myself talking through a situation based in fear. There was a potential stalemate and both parties feel the other should be the first to apologize. Unfortunately when two people are being stubborn and both acting from a place of fear there will be no forward moment, just stagnation. It’s the bigger person who takes the leap of faith and decides to make the first move. Yes it is a scary situation to not know what may result or what kind of outcome to anticipate however in the leap of faith and in the act of surrender you go first and be the bigger person. You offer up the first apology and this makes you the bigger person. Even if the other person is “more at fault” it does not matter. You are acting from your higher self. Also by putting yourself out there and offering peace and solace you are not only being the bigger person, but the more compassionate. They are one in the same really I suppose. Nonetheless one of us has to be the bigger person. One of us has to lead the other to disarmament. One of us must walk the path of peace. One of us takes the high road and in that action, we bring others up with us. Love is the more powerful frequency of the two. Love will elevate and help levitate awareness and allow unity to flow. This is the power of acting from a place of Divine Consciousness. In our true power we follow the path of Divinity always and forever. In our power and with the guidance of the Divine we transform and become better. In this transformation we take a great leap into the evervast-ness of cosmic consciousness, pure beauty, light and love.
Our greatest gains from the most painful of experiences is truly the rhythmic order of the cosmos. No pain no gain. Without troubles, tragedy, heartache there is no triumph. It is through the toughest times we walk the path of pain and resilience is bequeathed upon us by a Supreme Being. Without the long hard hike and the mountainous terrain tearing into the soles of our feet what do we know of pleasure and without breaking a real sweat what do we know of pain. Without the hard aches we have know way of differentiating the beautiful softness that perhaps maybe just fleeting. Even in the minute glimpses and glances of a fleeting love or moment we come to know the innate difference between pleasure and pain, love and heartache, the haves and wants.
Living in your light is the most pure way for us to live. We resist so much in life only to come to find that resistance is truly not the path or way. Life presents opportunities and abundance when we least expect it. Life offers us so many chances at soul growth. It truly is up to us to want to embrace the challenges for our own betterment. The struggles are about evolution. In contemplation of every challenge that presents self we are given an opportunity for reflection. We are offered up a chance at deeper inquisition? We can be in resentment of what is. We can reject what is? Or we can live into the struggle powerfully. We can ask the universe why in a philosophical way. “Why me” is not the same as simply “why?” Those of us interested in sincere transformation recognize a potential gift in the difficulty. There is a way of approaching from a place of victimhood or there is a way of embracing what is to learn the deeper lesson. We can do either. And the choice is truly ours. How we react and how we interpret what happens to us is based purely in our own self awareness and ultimate self-preservation. Do we hunker down to the battles and struggles or do we take them and rise up. We are stronger for it. The toughest people out there generally have fought some of the toughest battles in life. Life requires bravery and boldness of us. When we step up and step out we begin to live in our most awesome light.
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Empathy, the power of compassion is perhaps the greatest gift we can give not only to others, but ourselves. A deeper knowing comes upon us when we learn the power of putting others first.
It’s what we’d want if we were hurting. When we are in pain we seek only the empathy of others. When others are hurt around us it is the most powerful way of being. In empathy we find love. In empathy we find peace and solace. In empathy we find our own power. It is through compassion for others we understand life in a much greater way. In this way of being we are able to connect to people in a way that is so heartfelt and moving it can only elevate our awareness and consciousness and inevitably those around us. We are received so magnificently when we come from a place of heartfelt love, compassion and empathy. We connect in ways God wants us to connect. We are one with those around us when we feel them, their pain, their sorrow. We can act in accordance of our very essence, our true nature, love. We are so much greater for this. I’m a better human being and a more appreciated human being because of acts of empathy. I take myself out of the equation when someone is angry or upset and instead come from a place of higher awareness. I feel their pain and sorrow and not their anger and resentment. I hear their suffering and I render them defenseless.
In empathy I see the world with eyes of love. In compassion I feel you and allow you to feel me. We are friends, we are co-existers and we are in this together. I get your hurt and you see nothing, but love emanating from me. We connect in a way that only through empathy we could. We are one, not two. You see me as a human being who is nonjudgmental, loving and caring. I see you as a human being who is hurting, aching and needing care. We offer up love to one another. What could be more powerful than this?
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Perhaps I’m enamored with the idea of happiness because of all of my pain. And needing to find a powerful way to deal with it. Yes that is absolutely why I’ve spent so many years in reflection and so much time looking for answers. And I found what I was looking for. A powerful liberating way to turn pain into something awesome. Learning the lessons from the struggles is our soul’s very purpose.
And in my more than two decades found in my deepest reflections when I had traveled deep inside myself, into the innermost core of my being I found answers. Answers to many of my questions. The why’s and why nots all had deeper meanings and clarity that would’ve evaded me had I not pondered and gone in search of more. Within each and every one us lies the answers. They are there. They had always been there, but made themselves known only through my seeking. And it is so true as Rumi famously said, “what you are seeking is seeking you.”
Self Inquiry has been the greatest gift I’ve given to myself. It is a gift that keeps on giving to that deepest part. The seeker inside of each and every one of us must first self-reflect or inquire within oneself. And so it is, the secrets to life would begin to reveal themselves to me. The keys to my own happiness were always inside of me. As a seeker, I’ve always vowed to understand life’s challenges and obstacles. I did not want the struggles to make me bitter no matter how much they hurt. And many times we externalize trauma and hurt in ways that are not pretty or healthy. I did not want this for myself. I always knew and felt there was more to my struggles and as a seeker, I thank God for the struggles. It’s those very struggles that have made me strong. It’s those struggles that toughened me up and have prepped me.
Along with the greatest advice I had ever been given. By my very tough mother. She instilled in me from a very young age, “Life is hard. You have to be strong.” That was sage advice from someone who had had her fair share of struggles and her own life had taught her this remarkable lesson. She told me it was the only way she got through it. And I believed her. She was right.
It was simple yet too complex to truly comprehend the power of this teaching at 7 or 8, but literally, it began very early.
It was a profound teaching that I would carry with me boldly through all of life’s ups and downs and as it was instilled in me it took root inside of me. And through the hardships, the pain, the challenges I was always reminded and remembered that life is tough and I have to be strong.
And really the avid seeker knows the tough things make us even stronger. The soul seeker in search of meaning and depth does not want or allow life’s hardships to make her bitter. She wipes away her tears and rises up a warrior.
The sun will indeed shine. Through the depths of my sorrow I still see the light. Through the chaos of pain the sun still shines bright. No matter the challenge, no matter the despair we are funneled out the other end. Life even more mysterious than I had first grasped during my younger complications. Even after so many revelations the mystery of life ever more profound. I thought with time the answers to life’s deepest questions would magically appear or perhaps other experiences would lead to a greater understanding. The answers would offer up solutions. The regrets would fall by the wayside. The sorrows would fade into the distance. The hurtful memories would wash away into the blissful backdrop of my youth. Nevertheless, the years of self-inquiry surely insist the painful ones that linger are indeed for my own betterment. The challenges have always allowed immense opportunity for contemplation. Through the understanding I’d transcend. Transcend, I have, but not to the pinnacle I’d imagined. I remind myself of my mature and evolved youth like optimism. Time is still with me. I have time so I keep hopeful. I thought through my years in silence and contemplation I’d be liberated from the unanswered questions that haunt me still. It’s nothing like I’d imagined and thought it would be. The outcome nothing like the dreams I’d elaborated in my mind’s eye. The colorful wonderment of life still yearning to be born, re-born, re-invigorated, re-awakened. I always believed my own reasoning would inevitably explain the inexplicable. The why’s would be gone and the how’s would allow anticipation and hope for newness. It’s nothing like this. And with all of the inexplicable comes my surrendering. My surrendering to the unknown is my greatest comfort these days. Without expending too much energy on the sorrowful aspects of my being, my existence, my experience I let go and open myself up to the abundance of the universe. I no longer need a reason or a definitive explanation for what was and no longer is. I don’t need a why. In my surrender I give myself strength. Through the letting go I’m offered hope and propelled forward by the infinite power of faith. In letting go of the pain I free myself to live more powerfully towards possibility and more fully with total awesomeness.
All of the most successful people in life have pretty high aspirations, but this is not about success. I’m talking about joy. Sustained joy. Something that will sustain you and give you a deep feeling of fulfillment. It’s that depth of meaning we all truly crave and want in life. Check out this awesome article on the 7 Secrets of Highly Happy People for more inspiration.
We want something that gives us true richness and an inner feeling of security and solitude.
Life’s ups and downs are met with grace through balance and a deeper understanding of our existentialism. When we aim for something we have something to work towards. Offering our soul a challenge, a mission, a task we know we can accomplish. Aiming for or desiring some end result keeps us going. It gives us the motivation to make life have meaning. Life is so much more meaningful when we are working towards something. No matter how big or small if there is something we’d like to accomplish we meet the day with the task. If we have no desires or aims in life we tend to live aimlessly and the depth in life we are born craving and longing eludes us.
People who set goals for themselves are generally the happiest people who report sustained happiness in the long term. It’s the human condition to want and to go after and if we are not tasked with that then we live half-heartedly taking the days as they come rather than making our days as they come.
What is that aim I ask? You want more out of life, don’t you? What is that vision you see for yourself?
The more you spend time with this the more you will desire it and the more energy you will start putting into manifesting it into being. You owe it to yourself to want more. So please for yourself and for us all want more, have more and create more. Shine your light! Go on!